I'm just putting myself in the position of somebody listening and I say ''I don't feel seen or I don't feel

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appreciated'' I find that people are nodding along at

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the logic but if I could see the thought balloon over their heads their heads would be shaking, no way. Unless someone is living in utter social isolation 

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we are routinely surrounded with factual opportunities to

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feel included and seen and even appreciated just in ordinary life

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that people have walking down the street, getting a meal, interacting with other

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people, social media those are there every second even if

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in a person's life they're pretty thin there are things we can do to foster them and one of the simplest ways to

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foster them is to rest in a kind of benevolence yourself, a kind of good will,

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good wishes, being basically benign, looking for the good in others approaching people in a supportive kind

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of way in very simple terms immediately other people will respond to that which

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gives you then opportunities to take in a sense of healthy connection, I find

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that the issue for most people is not a lack of actual

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caring toward you, even though it would be good to get more caring coming towards you in its various forms and to

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find better relationships and all that, I find honestly that the lack is that people don't recognize the caring that's

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there and when they recognize it they don't feel it and when they feel that they don't take it in and the issue

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around all that is motivation, it's

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getting on your own side and tipping over to feel that this is the medicine I

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need.(DrRick)